clarify/rephrase

[nolly]

I think my comment in the branch discussion in serenejournal's LJ may be more clear than my original statement, which was something of a first draft, so I'm reposting it here:

I know that I rapidly become irrational when I need food, especially when I'm physically tired. I've gotten pretty good at having a plan for dealing with this in ways that don't have much impact on other people. Occasionally, factors beyond my control throw a monkey wrench into those plans, and the cranky spills. If I am not exhibiting basic courtesy, I don't feel I have a right to expect it from others. However, in this situation, rudely ignoring me is going to be rather less exacerbating
than rudely arguing with me, which is part of what I felt needed to be said -- whether it's heard or not. Handing me food or otherwise assisting in acquisition of food is likely to be helpful, but I don't actually expect that from anyone -- it's bonus if it happens, but ultimately, it's self-care and self-responsibility.

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[charlie-ego.livejournal.com]

Ohhhhh... yeah. I guess i kind of missed the first discussion, but can I say that this is completely and totally me. My sister has learned through painful experience that arguing is so not the way to go, and most of my friends tend to hand me food if they see me becoming cranky.

[nolly.livejournal.com]

This (http://nolly.livejournal.com/180563.html) is the original; Serene posted her own thoughts in her journal, and that helped me clarify my thoughts. It's mostly a response to a situatioin Tuesday night where an unexpected venue change threw off my food-acquisition plans at a time when I was too low on cope to really handle it well. An acquaintance -- who doesn't know me very well at all -- started being very belligerent with me about the availability of food at the new location, and it made matters worse. I doubt he'll read either of these posts or their comments, but others who witnessed the interaction will at least read the posts and may be helped by the extra context.