Discuss:

[nolly]

There is a line between consideration and presumption. Since each individual draws zir own line, it is beneficial to behave in a manner that acknowledges the existence of this boundary, particularly while becoming acquainted with a person and learning where zir boundaries are. Caution is generally more successful than enthusiasm/eagerness when dealing with this and other boundary issues.

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[pir-anha.livejournal.com]

how about cautious enthusiasm? :)

problem is that i don't see the latter as further along the other side of the spectrum to caution. i am quite enthusiastic when i really like new people, but i am also very conscious of respecting their boundaries, and step carefully at first.

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[nolly.livejournal.com]

Perhaps "enthusiasm" isn't the right word -- I'm thinking of someone who, physically, emotionally, etc. behaves like a rambunctious puppy, bouncing all over the place with too little regard for what zie might be bouncing into, on, off, or through. "Eagerness" might be closer.

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[esprix.livejournal.com]

Eagerness is a good word. I hate those people. I take the time to feel someone out (no pun intended) so I don't cross any lines.