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I wish more people understood more clearly that they are in control of their reactions to things, and that they are choosing to freak out about things that really aren't nearly as important as they decide they are.

-- esprix, slightly edited

Not entirely unrelatedly, strangers on the internet do not control my priorities or how I choose to use my time and energy, and I do not appreciate them attempting to dictate such. I also do not appreciate being accused of saying things I did not say -- the difference between "This is not important enough to me to spend any more time on" and "This is not important" is huge. Likewise, the difference between "This is mildly annoying" and "You should not do this" is huge.

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[edgreen86.livejournal.com]

And, sometimes, it becomes important because the boss has changed the game plan and it is now suddenly important.

Now, you (the employee), have a certain control over your reaction to that. Reactions include just accepting it and moving on all the way up to walking out.

I have found over the years the worse way to deal with someone who is in crisis management mode is to get back in their face about it. YMMV.

[esprix.livejournal.com]

Alas, my boss is just an asshat sometimes. Whatever is in front of her at that particular moment suddenly becomes her #1 top priority, without bothering to consult with me to determine what other things I have going on, as I report to 3 different people and have conflicting priorities (and it's my job to prioritize appropriately). Trying to explain to her that her fire gets less priority because another fire is burning hotter works, but doesn't reduce her stress levels, which, in turn, affects my stress levels.

Basically, reporting to 2 type-A women and one asshat of a tool of a guy is hell on me. :)

[brooksmoses]

Oy.

That reminds me of someone talking about a thing they admired about their boss, which was that they had a sign in their office that said something along the lines of "Decisions will remain in effect until changed" -- by which they meant that it was perfectly fine to change decisions about what should be the top priority and such, but that once one had made a decision about it, any changes should be intentional and thought through, not just a result of superceding the decision thoughtlessly by a new decision.